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Monday, 23 December 2013

Quarrelling by the rules


Have you been in a quarrel where you don’t talk with your friend or significant other wishing all the time that the other person ends the quarrel? Well, now you can follow these rules of quarreling shared by Mukta of Muktangan at ‘Vedh’, Thane. According to her, the rules work wonders at Muktangan and also in personal life.

Rules of quarrelling

    • No change of subject

      This rule states, If you start a quarrel on a topic, you have to continue to argue that topic. You can’t jump to some other topic by bringing something the other person did the previous day but stick to the same subject.
       Normally, when a fight ensues we tend to bring forth all the previous irritating topics related to the person. For example, if you are quarrelling about someone forgetting something, ask them an an explanation for that thing only. Don’t start how the person takes you for granted and doesn’t keep things in their proper place.

    • Set a time limit

      No quarrel is worth wasting a week or even a complete day. Why not finish it off in a stipulated time and enjoy the rest of the day?
      You have to decide a time limit for your argument. Not talking to the person for an extended period of time is considered a part of the quarrel and isn’t allowed. After all,
      If you follow rule no.1 then, this one is easy. How long can you argue on just one topic?
    • No labeling

      Labeling is never a good thing. Try and understand, most of the times, it’s the situation which is irritating not the person. For example, if your friend is late for a get together, you start enumerating all the earlier times he/she was late and label them a late-latiff. Then, the other person gets fueled up.
     
    • No fighting in front of the children (This applies for a couple quarrel)

      Most of the times, quarrel isn’t much of an issue but its impact on the children.


Most of my experiences of a fight are with my younger brother. And the only rule in a sibling fight is, there aren’t any rules. It’s a free style fight where the winner is the last man standing.

Start of a squabble
How a sibling fight starts...
                     


 




What do you think of these rules of quarreling? Do you want to add anything?Would you like to implement them? Or do you think it difficult to follow any rules once a squabble starts? 
 

26 comments:

  1. Actually I like these rules, they simplify the fight. :)

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    1. Thanks Indrani. These rules would indeed reduce the gravity of the quarrel.

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  2. Oh!! this quarrel thing, I would like to avoid :) but yes, you have written those rules amazingly punctuated by a bit of humor :) well written.

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    1. Thanks Bharati. I would prefer not to quarrel, too.

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  3. Hee Hee! Chuckled & smiled :) Really true :)
    in today's age, some people are ready to quarrel at the slightest pretext! I'm a peace-lover & wanna stay away from quarrels :)

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    1. Thanks Anita.
      Some indeed love quarreling without any actual provocation. I am a peace-lover too.

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  4. WOw. Rule based quarreling. Nice to have. really funny. Its good if these are adopted.

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    1. Thanks a lot. I too had laughed when I first heard about it.

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  5. Nice post Kiran :) You have explained the rules very nicely :)

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  6. This post has been selected for the Tangy Tuesday Picks this week. Thank You for an amazing post! Cheers! Keep Blogging :)

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    1. Thank you Team BlogAdda. This means a lot to me.

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  7. But seldom these rules are followed. On the TV channel discussions the question and answer are very different.

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    1. I know. Life would be so much easier if everybody followed the rules.

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  8. ha ha ha... I have also had freestyle fights with my sisters.

    Very Good Post. So, now Kiran is a celebrity blogger. God bless you. Keep writing.

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    1. :) That's the way siblings bond. ;)
      He he...celebrity blogger, I wish.
      Thanks a lot for the appreciation.

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  9. I agree on that time limit...... end of the day - end of the fight :-)

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    1. :) "end of the day - end of the fight" -cool.

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  10. A Very Happy New Year to you Kiran!

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  11. Hahahahahaaaaa
    Kiran maam , who needs rules to fight hehehehe.. superb article..
    wonderfully written and presented :)
    Thanks for sharing
    Wishing you a womderful week ahead :)

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    1. Thanks Bhavikk. You too have a wonderful weekend!

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  12. Hey these rules are simple to follow and make good sense.

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